Paranoia

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Eating watermelon. Hey wait a second, that’s not real!

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Catching some zzz’s during treatment.

Katie

Chatting with Katie about pediatric cancer.

Hi all – worked late last night so didn’t have time to update. Sally had a good day with Nicole at MSK, spending another day in isolation receiving fluids to flush out the chemo she received on Monday. So far, she has been in less pain and overall much happier than last week’s treatment. One small area of concern is that Sally’s area from surgery last week is red. Doctors are going to keep an eye on it, normally they would give her an antibiotic but already feel she has enough in her body between the chemo and the cold. Other than that, Sally has been in good spirits, mostly after receiving Tylenol as it looks like pain this week has been caused by normal teething. As Nicole said this morning, its nice to have a normal issue for once. When I got home last night, Sally was up for an hour being very playful. Mommy and Daddy were exhausted and dying to get to bed, but really enjoyed her company and seeing her laughing and smiling. She also managed to eat some chicken and rice on her own, Nicole has found that she’s most likely to eat when at home while the rest of us are eating with her. Who can blame her?

Sally is back at MSK this morning meeting with Occupational and Physical Therapy while getting her flush. We’re hoping the tests today come back that it is fully out of her system and we can get a break from MSK for a day.

Yesterday was Nicole’s appearance on Katie Couric, which I’ve included a link below. We want to thank Marie Sidoti, William’s teacher last year, for submitting Nicole’s name and making it all happen, despite the way it was scripted for TV. We were delighted that Katie Couric mentioned that September is Pediatric Cancer Awareness Month, and that the gold ribbons were clearly visible. A couple facts Nicole laid out that didn’t make the cut:

1. The government has $5 billion for cancer research and only gives 3.8% to kids cancer

2. In 25 years there has been one new drug for kids cancer

3. 4 kids die every day and over 40,000 are in treatment each year

We understand that not everything could be included, but we hope these stats will lead to a future segment highlighting pediatric cancer and giving it the attention it needs.  Hopefully Nicole will find time to write about the experience herself, in the meantime here is the segment, Nicole and AnnMarie look fantastic right?  http://katiecouric.com/videos/two-moms-strut-their-stuff-at-fashion-week/

One thing I forgot to mention about the fundraiser is that normally only 10 people or so at these events register themselves for the marrow registry, we had over 70! Thanks to all who participated! The biggest marrow need is from minorities and those of mixed races, please spread the word.

So far, everything has gone well this week with treatment, almost so well that it makes Nicole and I paranoid. This chemo is so strong, nurses told me it makes everybody from kids to adults feel lousy. I bumped into Dr. Kobos on the way out this morning and told her our fear, to which she said we shouldn’t be concerned. Nicole and I both view every little thing with paranoia – why hasn’t all her hair fallen out yet, why are her white blood cells so high, why is she feeling better than she should? This has been such a roller coaster of emotions and Sally has been the small percentage so many times, it makes us sensitive to every little thing. Nicole and I are physically and mentally exhausted and have so much to do we feel like we’re so deep in the weeds that we’ll never get out. They often tell us things will get better, which we’re really hoping for. Last night, I had a nightmare that Sally had died. I knew eventually this would happen, and know it will again, but was still awful. For a few minutes I couldn’t remember if it was real or not, thankfully realizing it was just a dream.  My eyes are red and swollen this morning, so must have been crying at some point. Couldn’t tell you how happy and relieved I was to get up and see a smiling Sally this morning.

Please keep Sally in your thoughts and prayers.

Matt

 

5 Responses

  1. Lisa De Santis
    Lisa De Santis September 18, 2013 at 10:46 am | | Reply

    Matt & Nicole,
    You both are the most loving, patient, caring parents. Sally is very lucky to have you there for her. You guys are doing such a great job. I know it is an emotional roller coaster at this point but I feel so positive that with the kind of support & love Sally has behind her, there is no possible way that these treatments aren’t going to work. MATT nightmares will happen because the worst thought will always be in the back of your mind. Just remember its only a nightmare. No doubt I just know our Little Sally Sunshine will pull through ♡ I Love You Guys So Much

  2. Karen Zahralban
    Karen Zahralban September 18, 2013 at 11:01 am | | Reply

    OMG Matt…soooo sorry about that horrid dream….understandable why it was on your mind, but awful just the same! Tears running down MY face as I read it,immediately sliding myself into YOUR place, and cried for YOU…having to face that nightmare in the little time you have to sleep. NOW we will all add to our prayers that you don’t ever have that nightmare again!!!! Great big hug from someone you don’t know, but is on this journey with you! x0x0x0x0x0

  3. DK Holland
    DK Holland September 18, 2013 at 7:28 pm | | Reply

    The current thinking is (I understand) that sleep (AKA dreams) are a way of clearing out all the extraneous stuff from the day before. And that the hippocampus is not engaged during sleep so that’s why all our images are so crazy mixed up. We consolidate short term into long term memories through the hippocampus.

    So that’s why we wake up sometimes having put things together that we didn’t understand the day before. And why we don’t remember our dreams for very long.
    And this is also why sleep is so important and a big part of our health, especially deep sleep. Sleep well, Matt, Nicole, and especially Sally, Thomas and William.

  4. Mary
    Mary September 18, 2013 at 10:10 pm | | Reply

    Hi my name is Mary and my brother is a friend of yours through the Buffalo Bills club. He told me all about Sally and I want you to know that I am praying for her and asking God for a full recovery.
    My husband was diagnosed with Lymphomia when I was pregnant with our 3rd child. Although I have had no experience with children’s cancers I am not new to the word and the frightening things that go along with it as you go through the journey of Chemo.
    I belong to a wonderful church and have lots of friends who will storm the heavens with pray for Sally…Please keep us all posted on her recovery and we will all be waiting for a praise report. Remember to try very hard to block out negativity …its not from God. He only wants the best for Sally.
    God Bless,
    Mary

  5. shannon aronson
    shannon aronson September 18, 2013 at 10:42 pm | | Reply

    paranoia is the new normal;-) I feel the same way. once you know how far the shoe can drop it is hard not to expect the other one to fall. sweet dreams and no nightmares tonight

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